Neuro Linguistic Programming (NLP), is a very in depth and sometimes complicated part of psychology that is hard to explain even for Master NLP Practitioners.

The main idea behind it is that by using NLP on yourself and other people it can drastically improve everyone’s life beyond your wildest dreams.

The power of the mind is absolutely incredible.  Everyday I learn more about what it is capable of and I am astounded with all the new developments and techniques within the human mind.

To understand NLP and how it works is to start noticing patterns in other people and within yourself.  NLP is a process more than it is content.

  • The process of your interaction with others
  • Listen to the form
  • Watch the form
  • Feel the form
  • Get involved within the content in these NLP blogs and in other material that is out there 

NLP is a great way to supercharge your success.

Working with the unconscious mind is a lot more efficient than to consciously try to make the changes you want in your life.  Your unconscious mind runs 90%+ of all your actions through habits you consciously formed whether you know it or not.

Change your life in minutes, not decades!


In terms of NLP, your 5 senses are considered modalities and you experience your entire world with the combination of your 5 senses.

  • Visual (eyes)
  • Auditory (ears)
  • Kinesthetic (feelings and touch)
  • Olfactory (smell)
  • Gustatory (taste)

When we think, we think in terms of pictures in our minds eye.  Using submodalities to enhance the picture, if you talked to Jack Canfield he would call this visualization. Using modalities and submodalities you are able to test the results using the TOTE Model.


People that are like each other – like each other.

Rapport leads to successful communication between people and groups.

Neuro-Linguistic Programming for Dummies says, “Rapport is like money: you realise that you have a problem only when you don’t have enough.”

From the Empowerment Partnership:

Communication can be broken down into the following components:

  • Words – 7%
    • Sharing common experiences
    • Predicates
      • Match the modalities they say
        • “I see what you are saying” (Visual)
        • “I hear what you are saying” (Auditory)
        • “I feel what you are saying” (Kinesthetic)
    • Use the keywords that they use
    • Do not swear until they swear, use the curse word they used only
  • Tonality – 38%
    • Match the pitch of their voice
    • Match the speed in which they talk
    • Match the quality of their voice
      • Clear
      • Raspy
      • Mumbly, etc.
    • Match the volume in which they talk
  • Physiology – 55%
    • Match their posture
    • Match/Mirror their gestures
    • Match their facial expression
    • Match their blinking
      • Pattern or rate
      • Blink at the same time so you both do not see the other person blinking
    • Match their breathing

Matching and Mirroring

You are essentially copying what they do with your body language a few seconds after they do it.  Your goal is to move and talk like they do.

Using a very simple example:

Matching is when the other person raises their right hand, you will raise your right hand

Mirroring is when the other person raises their right hand, you will raise your left hand (like looking in a mirror)


An anchor is a NLP tool that creates a positive state within yourself in less than a few seconds.

From Neuro-Linguistic Programming for Dummies, “NLP defines an anchor as an external stimulus that triggers a particular internal state or response.”

Using your positive emotions, feelings and imagination, you are able to create an anchor to help you overcome troubling times more resourcefully in the future.

The easiest way to describe an anchor is to think of a sight, sound, smell, taste or feeling that brought back memories of your childhood.  When I smell homemade Polish food, I instantly picture my Polish grandma cooking in her yellow carpeted kitchen with very old pots and pans. The smell of chop-suey is my anchor that takes me instantly back to my childhood.

What technique will you begin working on?

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