Having many mentors over the years, it’s impossible not to learn incredible knowledge most people just pass by. Even though we’ve all learned this at some point, learning it from numerous successful mentors over and over again rings a bell no amount of seminars or training’s can compete with.
From daily emails, to weekly phone calls, and monthly zoom calls, there are numerous ways your mentors can change your life. When you find a mentor, you do what they say. If you don’t know how to do it, figure it out.
I’ve experienced so many styles of mentoring. Don’ look for a style, look for someone who can get you to your end result.
During my mentorship sessions, they have all expressed the importance of having a mentor at one point or another. If you don’t have one yet, get one!
With all the mentors I’ve had, this is a summed crash course of what I learned over the years:
1) S.M.A.R.T. Goals Suck
While the average person learns about S.M.A.R.T. Goals, the successful people in this world go about achieving objectives in a whole different way.
It’s not about setting the goal, it’s about what you do with it. To create a goal worth pursuing, list everything you want in this life. Literally, list everything you can think of. After writing everything down, pick the ONE you really want to achieve.
Make sure it’s something you’ve never done before, it scares and excites you at the same time, and you have no clue how you’ll do it. Make it so big that when you achieve it, your mind will be blown! Then, focus on only that. JUST ONE GOAL!
Visualize yourself living the reality of this goal being completed. Write it down. Have it consume your entire being and way of life. With persistence, you will obtain whatever you desire most.
2) Knowing v. Doing Gap
Some of the smartest people in your class are probably still working that high school job. People with Ph.D.’s are homeless or broke. There is zero relation to how smart someone is as to how much they achieve in this world.
Just start even if you’re clueless as to what you’re doing. You don’t need to have everything planned out and all your ducks in a row. Just do it!
We can only learn so much from books. There’s endless learnings embedded within all our actions. Instead of thinking yourself stagnant, do something; anything.
3) Persistently Consistent
Consistence is doing something every day. Persistent is overcoming challenges. If achieving something great was easy then everyone would do it.
Before any big achievement is made, a huge failure is nearly inevitable before that happens. By getting up every day and doing what you set out to do, you’ll program your mind to keep moving forward. A persistent mentality is vital to whether every storm life will put in your way.
Nothing happens by doing it now and then, it takes daily action even when you don’t want to. Can’t gain muscles exercising once in a while, it comes from consistent actions. Whether it be everyday or week, stick to a consistent schedule.
4) Confidence Trumps All
No matter how smart or dumb a leader is, people follow them based on confidence. In sales people buy people, and confidence plays the biggest factor in this.
Have you ever had a conversation with someone who is shy or questions themselves? Someone who needs permission to do something or needs approval from their peers?
Confidence is that inner knowing you know what you’re talking about even when you don’t know what you’re talking about. Social skills are dropping because of technology but they’re still vital.
5) Purpose & Vision
Both purpose and vision are both essential to create that paradigm to be consistent, persistent, confident, and jump starting you into action. Know why you’re on the road to your end result while visualizing the “Land of Oz” on your way there.
Simon Sinek made a career off of educating people of the purpose of starting with your why. Know why you are doing something. This is the foundation of all your decisions and will excite you to do things that need to be done even when you don’t want to do it.
Your vision is where you’re going. It’s the end result, the goal you started with. By visualizing it every day as often as possible, you will achieve it quicker than ever imagined.
Determine one thing your truly want which you’ll do almost anything to achieve it. Clearly spell out what it will look like and then take action. Don’t spend much time on this. The key is to know where you’re going and then immediately take action.