There’s a difference between two very types of people. I call it small thinkers and big thinkers.
It is easy to tell the difference between proactive and reactive language.
People will be drawn more towards the people with proactive language and want to avoid those with reactive language.
Reactive Language Choices
- I’ll try
- That is the way I am
- There’s nothing I can do
- I have to
- I can’t
- You ruined my day
Proactive Language Choices
- I will do it
- I can do better
- What are our options
- I choose to
- There has to be a way
- Someones negative attitude does not affect me
Don’t settle for the way you are. If you know the areas you need to improve on, improve on them.
There is always room for improvement, always!
The people who are most successful are always improving how the act in everyday situations. No one is perfect and it is a life long journey.
Keep a proactive vocabulary and watch your life transform for the better.
Stay persistent with it.
The difference between the two in everyday language is obvious:
If I only had a different team I would have met our quota. ”
Even though my team is not good and don’t answer the questions I need to get answered. I am still going to try my hardest. My accomplishments are my responsibility.”
Reactive Phrase II
Thanks a lot, you just ruined my day. Everyone always does that to me.”
Proactive Phrase II
I understand that some people are in bad moods and can say things they don’t mean. I choose to be happy and no one can take that away from me”
I know so many people who are reactive and very few proactive people.
Most reactive people that I am surrounded with are not by choice. They are my bosses, coworkers and friends of friends.
I made it my choice to only be around successful, positive and proactive people by:
- Quitting my job
- Telling my friends I no longer want to be around their negative friends
- Dropped friends from my life
- Convinced myself certain family members cease to exist